Let’s celebrate the good work they are doing at Cafe 407, Ophelia’s Place #circlesofchange
to help people deal with body issues from eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, and binging to body dysmorphic disorders. In other words seeing yourself as fat and ugly or dysmorphic. I recall a documentary where a teen boy who was struggling with this took a staple gun to his face and looking in the mirror gave himself a ” face lift” with the tool.
Eating disorders are multi generational. I don’t know who the first victim was or how far back though there was a heavy grandmother on one side and a think great aunt on the other both who made various members’ lives misery over weight. In my generation we had several who did such behaviors as binging and cutting to bulimia.
For those of you who don’t know what bulimia is, it is eating huge amounts of food and then purging or making yourself throw it up or taking laxatives and diet pills to compensate. Binging alone is now recognized as a separate disorder where the person eats and eats and eats.
One family member underwent specific therapy for their eating disorder at their college and did such ground breaking work on family roles that a video was made. In the next younger generation at least one person has suffered with an eating disorder.
When a member of a family suffers, it is everyone’s problem. Plus we live In a society which worships skinniness way past common sense and has coined terms in social media such as ” fat shaming.” I had several friends years ago who were anorexic and every now and then I wonder if they are alive. It changes you to watch someone painstakingly cut off slivers of lettuce after setting aside the burgers and bun and only sucking on a sliver of green at a time.
A person with an eating disorder is at risk for death from it. If you have one, it is never ” cured.” You learn to manage it and other ways to cope with the feelings that created the situation where starving yourself made sense or cutting off part of your offending anatomy with nail scissors and other tools. Several of us in my extended family cope by creating healthy meals with a great deal of variety and exercise to manage the anxiety. Some days it goes better than others.
Consider our town so lucky that we have Ophelia’s Place to come to meetings and dialogue and support.